first read this poem, I was married. I didn't understand it,
nor did I like it. In fact, I really didn't like it.
It had no relevance to me. I was supposedly happily married at the time.
After my divorce, I began to understand it's meaning.
I came to realize that it is about inner strength, and learning that women
have to learn not to depend on a man, or anyone else, for their happiness
and fulfillment. I learned that in everyone's life there are good-byes
of one kind or another. We are always saying good-bye.
Spouses let us down; spouses disappoint us; spouses don't keep promises.
Spouses and other loved ones die.
Friends move away; friendships cool, and children grow up and leave home.
They begin their own lives and aren't so much a part of ours anymore.
Some stay close to us, live close to us; some don't.
Parents do the best they can, but most of us have some scars and issues from childhood.
Eventually, these scars leave us, also.
we have to build our own world, plan our own lives, and learn not to
depend on anyone else except God. Most of all, we realize that we can survive
if we are strong. Then, anything that comes along share our lives
or to make us happier is icing on the cake.
(Comes the Dawn"
"After a while you
learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company isn't security.
(Kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises.)
After awhile you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain
and the inevitable has a way of crumbling in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you stand too long in one place.
So, you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.
And you learn you really can endure,
that you really do have worth.
You learn that with every good-bye comes the dawn."
wrote "Comes the Dawn"???
It is an ongoing dispute.
I had first credited this poem it to Veronica Shofftall. I received an e-mail from someone telling me that Veronica wrote it. There have been several versions of this poem. Usually it is attributed to "Unknown" because there is no official copyright owned by anyone.
Before you write to tell me that this poem was written by Veronica Shofftall, please read an e-mail that I got from Judith Evans in September of 2004. Pay close attention to the wording and spelling.
"Just thought you'd like
to know, Comes the Dawn (sometimes called "After a While",
or "You Learn") was written by ME a loooong time ago. decades
and decades! You see it in many forms, usually attributed to someone,
often a "Veronica Shofftall" and supposedly even copyrighted
by her. (She even included it in a self e-published collection called
"Mirrors and Other Insults", which she then had to remove
from the internet because. like, it's not written
by her!) There are several "renditions". No doubt,
someone picked it up and wanted to put there own spin on it. Odd. This
is probably one of the most plagiarized poems in the world! And I didn't
make a DIME off it!
Not that it makes any difference
now. I just wanted to let you know, for
Judith B. Evans
Now, before you believe that Judith Evans wrote it, read on.
recently I got an e-mail from a man named Lorenzo saying that Jorge
Luis Borges (August 24, 1899 June 14, 1986), who was an Argentine
writer and considered one of the foremost literary figures of the 20th
century, wrote a poem titled "Y Uno Aprende" which he says
was translated by the others who claim it.
You can read a huge argument
over who wrote it on
The mystery deepens. Since there is no proof, I say the author is Unknown and Unproven.
2012 - Update
Actually, the only thing that
matters is that the poem has been meaningful to hundreds, if not thousands,
of people, and that should be enough credit for the real author.
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