"Let Them Go"
This little article arrived in my mailbox, sent to me recently by a friend. It had some additional things at the end appropriate to general things ( like much of the stuff that is passed around on the Internet), but I think this portion is very appropriate for my divorce site. I hope this is the proper author to whom the credit should go, and I hope he doesn't mind me using it here. I've used his words with a few punctuation corrections.
These are pretty strong
words, but I have to say I agree with him. It reiterates what I've said
about "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" When someone leaves your
life, you can't make them stay. It is my belief, as is stated below, that
it wasn't meant to be for the long haul, and that it really isn't God's
plan for you. When you beg someone to stay, you are lowering your self
esteem and giving them power that they should not have over you. There
is a great difference in trying to work out problems and save a marriage
if both people are interested in doing so, and in when one quits trying
"Let Them Go"
By T. D. Jakes
"There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I
tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left.
The Bible said that
they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not
People leave you because
they are not joined to you.
Let them go.
It doesn't mean that
they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over.
You've got to know
when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm
hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me
to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need
Let them go!"
(End of Jake's words)
attention to the phrase, "whatever
God means for me to have He'll give it to me".
The actual New King James Version Bible verse from 1 John 2:19 states: "They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would have continued with us; but they went out that they might be made manifest, that none of them were of us."
To me, this
means that if the person we were with was really meant for us, he or she
would not leave. This is small comfort when you have been left and are
alone and hurting and grieving, but you need to keep in mind that your
life's book is not finished. This is not the end of your
life. There will be other chapters of your life with new characters coming
into your life. The people who come into your life from now on will be
a continuation of your book of life. For thus it is written, and the book
is there for you to live. We all have the freedom to make choices, but
I believe that the Book of Life knows our choices and that it written
before our birth. Let that person go so that you can get on with your
life and live it the way it is meant to be lived.
As a writer
and librarian, I'm always interested in getting to the source of things
that have been written and whom I quote.Since I first created this page,
I did a little research and found that this essay (actually part of a
sermon) by Jakes is all over the Internet. I learned that Bishop T.D.
Jakes is a somewhat controversial pastor in Dallas has been on TV from
time to time, and was on the cover of TIME a few years ago. He is Pastor
and CEO of The Potter's House of Dallas, Inc., a multiracial nondenominational
church. He is thought to be by some as not entirely telling God's words
as they were written. However (and evidentally), based on the number of
web sites his "Let Them Go' has been placed on, this particular writinig
by him has meaning for a lot of people. Here I've tried to put it in the
context of divorce and death.
This page is not an endorsement of T.D.Jakes and his ministry.
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This page was created
January 7, 2006
"Let Them Go" T.D. Jakes