Real Life


  © 2006 - Linda Saxon Nix  


"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

Father Alfred D'Souza


If we wait to live life until things are the way we think they should be, we will be "waiting" all of our lives. The point of the above statement is that our lives are full of obstacles that we constantly have to clear or hurdle. My mother's favorite quote (I know it by heart because I've heard it all of my life) is:

"If God had meant Earth to be a flowery bed of roses,
He wouldn't have made Heaven".

My philosophy is this:

Whenever you get to a place that you think everything is accomplished, or that you now have free time, or no more problems, there has been a void created that is quickly and uncontrolably filled with some other things to do, more problems occur and you no longer have time on your hands.

If we wait until things are better, more things will come along, and there we go again. We aren't supposed to have it perfect here on Earth. As I've said in some of my other divorce recovery pages, we are here to learn and grow. We don't learn as much when everything is going well in our lives; its from the pain, the obstacles, the problems, the mistakes and the tragedies that we can learn and grow the most. Whether or not we do learn is absolutely up to us.
I don't believe that God punishes us when we go through bad times. Humans beings are given the gift of choice. We can choose the path we want to travel (within certain boundaries), and we often have to suffer the consequences of our choices. What God expects of us is to learn from our mistakes and move on to different tasks and lessons. We have to constantly strive to become a better person.
There are many things that we have no control over whatsoever. We can control some aspects of our health, but not all. We can't make a person keep on loving us. We have to deal with things in the best way we know how. In life, we will encounter death, unfairness, losses, and other unpleasant happenings. Some of the things that happen to us are not a result of what we do or what we are. It is how we deal with them that matters.
Believe that.

As the saying goes, "Life Happens!"
Try to live it the best that you can.



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